Low self-esteem is a syndrome that interferes with personal life and career growth, and its symptoms can be not only psychological, but also physical, which prevents living a full life twice. According to psychologists, disappointed in themselves leads to chronic illnesses, fatigue, headaches and insomnia.
In order not to bring yourself to the extreme – the “enemy” must be known in person. After all, when you know the essence of the problem, it is 50% to recovery.
The signs of low self-esteem include:
A person with a low self-esteem constantly uses negative phrases and phrases in his speech to belittle the value of actions: impossible, not sure, not ready, incompetent. People with low self-esteem do not appreciate compliments and gratitude, so they deny this and try to prove otherwise. It’s all a matter of guilt. The person also constantly asks for an apology.
If a person feels a deep guilt and can not forgive himself for a long time, he will constantly reproach himself for this, remind him of the “load on the heart” and always be ashamed of his actions. Ultimately, he loses self-esteem and self-esteem.
The situation when a person does not have the strength to turn off an internal critic. When he invented an ideal for himself, he sacrifices his own health and tries to do everything at the highest level. This also speaks of the “excellent student” syndrome.
Need for attention and approval
Obsessive need for attention and approval. A person is not able to recognize his merits and value himself. He needs constant confirmation that everything is fine and others notice it.
Lack of initiative
A person who has received certain powers, at any opportunity, will transfer them into other people’s hands. After all, he is not sure that he will cope with his task, even if he is a pro in his field. In a dispute with a colleague, he, too, is unlikely to be able to defend his position, preferring to agree with the opponent.
Responsibility for their decisions such people are not ready to bear. They generally prefer not to decide anything. Suddenly they will make a mistake, and the decision will turn out to be wrong. In this case, avoid criticism will not succeed. The worst thing for people who are unsure of themselves is the criticism of their relatives.
The reverse side of the coin, when people with low self-esteem show open hostility and cynicism towards others. This is just a variant of the defensive position, as the saying goes: “The best way to defend is an attack.”
Pretenders consider themselves worse than others, and to hide it, they boast of acquaintance with prominent people, show signs of nervousness, like a loud voice, pretended laughter. Try to make an impression through material prosperity.
Feeling of self-pity, or “poor me” syndrome, manipulation of weakness.
- No matter how ridiculous and obvious it may sound, you need to turn to a psychologist. On the problems you need to speak openly, and not to save in yourself. The reasons for low self-esteem may be unprocessed psychological trauma and the situation with children.
- In “home” conditions – to learn and once again learn to accept yourself. With mistakes, defects, shame and failures. This world is not ideal and people in it are somewhere fragile, somewhere tired already, somewhere broken and fallen in spirit. You are not the only “victim” of all circumstances. Simply reconcile and begin to improve yourself.
- Go to the side of reversive psychology (action from the opposite). Afraid – act. Shy, do not talk. You survive – mentally let all the worst happen. Everything will happen only for the better, but you will be ready for the bad and doubly rejoice when everything will turn out.
People think that they are thinking about them. Stop obsessing on the opinions of others.
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